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The great return!

Ok, so I have been gone for quite a long time and I really want to get my blog back up and moving. Things have been quite crazy around here for quite awhile now and are finally starting to get back to some sort of normalcy.

First, I’m pretty sure I talked about the 3 little girls that we had. Well sadly, last week we had to say good-bye to our oldest. She just had more troubles than we could help with her. We hung in as long as we could (almost 10 months), but just felt in the end it was in everyone’s best interest (even hers) to request a change of placement. It was such a battle in my mind to make that decision! Things are a lot calmer in our home now and I’m a lot calmer so it really is a decision I’m at peace with.

So at this point, we are down to 2, plus Carter. I have 2 open spots and am really excited to get more kids in here soon!! We are doing respite next weekend as well so that will be fun. We havn’t done respite since our current placements arrived.

Well, I plan to return to regular posting starting now and I am just so excited to be back!


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Well I’ve been MIA from the blogging world for quite some time. I think I just needed a break to get things in my life back in order. After all the illness and such I was feeling a little in the dumps because my house was a mess and I was a mess. So I’m now back on track and ready to get back involved.

We still have the girls and actually are working on getting a 4th placement. We are going vehicle shopping this weekend and we are looking to get a dreaded mini-van. Hopefully all goes well. We also want to go down to 1 vehicle. I just don’t go anywhere during the day when Mike is at work. He gets home around 2 so I just schedule all of our appointments after that. Anyways, my point in all this is if we get a mini-van we will be able to hold 1 more child. I really want one more, but being that we want to go to one vehicle, we need to be able to fit all of us in one car. I’m not too excited about driving a mini-van (it’s my own prejudice), but it will make traveling a million times easier. Right now I can get our kids in the car, but nothing else…not even our double stroller.

Well, that’s it for now. I just wanted to let my many faithful readers, that I am back!

Love you all!!

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Beware the Bug!

Well I figured I’d start my stint back with a nice little post about bugs. What sort of bugs, you ask? Well, the kind that make you itch. Now keep in mind there are several varieties and I plan to only discuss one of those little buggers (yes, pun intended) here today. The name… scabies! Now you may be wondering how I have come across these little guys and how I have obtained such a wealth of knowledge about them, well, here goes. I got them or well, I had them ( I hope!)

I have traced back the source based on where the dr. said I could get them from…possible sources include sharing clothes (nope, haven’t done that nor have I bought anything new for a few months), close contact with another such as holding a child for prolonged periods, sexual contact, etc. (know I didn’t get them from hubby because he doesn’t have the same problem) which pretty much made me think I got it from one of the kids. Now I didn’t think it was from the girls because I was pretty sure I had started to itch (which is the main symptom…not just any itch either…it’s an itch that doesn’t go away and is insane at night) before they came to us. So last night I was going through some of our foster care papers and came across papers on a little boy we did respite for around the time, I thought I would have contracted them. It all came together then.

Typically for all foster kids as soon as they come to our home, we strip them and wash anything we can (clothes, stuffed animals, blankets, etc.) just because you never know what they are coming from. Now a respite child is already placed with a foster home so I’m usually not as concerned, but if it’s a longer respite we will still do it because I have this thing about how clothes smell and sometimes people use detergent I don’t care for, etc, etc.

Now in this particulary case, the respite was just one night and I thought, what the heck, I would skip doing the laundry that day. Well, that was a big MISTAKE!!! Looking back I realized that his clothes were kind of yucky (I actually ended up having him wear some of my backup clothes when we went out to eat because his clothes were so nasty and stained and smelly (now keep in mind this is a child that is already in a foster home!). This sort of thing doesn’t really phase me anymore because there are quite a few foster parents around here that treat their kids like second-class citizens. These people however were working to adopt this sweet little boy. Now, I will say that honestly, the adults didn’t look much better themselves.

Now thankfully, these little buggers have quite the discerning taste buds and actually have preferences on who they like to chomp on. Thankfully (well, not so much for me) they only liked me! Mike didn’t get it nor did any of my girls or Carter.

I finally couldn’t take it any longer and went to the dr. he gave me a lotion that should take care of it. Now I’ve done the lotion thing and still itch which apparently is normal for 2-6 more weeks after treatement. At least the itching has subsided some. I’m not sure I could handle the itching anymore.

Moral of the story!!! ALWAYS WASH THE CLOTHES!!!!

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Well I am back from my “holiday” (HA!!! Like it ever really is a holiday for a mom!) Things went pretty well. The girls did well in all the new environments and met lots of new surrogate grandparents. We got the inside decorated for Christmas (our family tradition is to decorate the day after Thanksgiving. Mostly because Mike has that day off so he can help!) and most of the outside decorated. I will try to post some pictures soon! Honestly though it’s not much because, frankly, most of the decorations that exist are just plain tacky (no angry letters please)! Basically, I have a corner in the house devoted to all things Christmas although I do have a magnetic advent tree hanging in the living room, and I have a small glass nativity set on the dining room table.

Anyways, enough about my boring life.

So I need your advice (speaking to all foster parents here!).

What methods do you use to discipline/teach the rules of your house to new placements??

Right now, I do like our idea (will post what we do in the next day or two), but I want to know if there are any other methods that may work better. (For those of you who aren’t foster parents feel free to let me know what works for your kids. As foster parents we are very limited on what we are allowed to do for discipline so that’s why I’m asking other foster moms specifically.)

OK, sorry to leave it so short and sweet, but I have to run. I have to finish up laundry and get to bed. I’m exhausted!!!!!

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Ok, so I wanted to brag quick about all the insanely great deals I got for the girls. They each get $150 as a 1 time clothing allowance. Past that, we are responsible for clothing them out of our monthly funds. Here’s what I got…


10 full outfits (either dress, or shirt and pants)

1 pk. each undies and socks

3 pairs of jammies


7 full outfits

1 pk socks and 3 pairs of tights

3 pairs of jammies

1 pair of shoes


12 full outfits

3 pairs of jammies

1 pair of shoes

1 pk socks

3 pairs tights

For a total of….


Yes that’s right!!! That’s total! Not each!! Man, I’m so proud of myself. This will leave enough money for clothes in the spring for all of them too!!

How did I do it?? Well, we have a children’s consignment store here and the owner is a HUGE supporter of foster families and what we do so she gives 25% off to us. Most clothing is $5 or less! It’s an awesome resource because I can get so much more bang for my buck. There’s always really cute stuff too! She doesn’t take anything that is stained or heavily worn and quite often I find stuff that still has tags on them. It’s so wonderful because I’m so picky on clothes. I feel like they should have really nice and really cute clothes…it’s the least they deserve right!!??

OK done with the bragging now! You may move on with your day! 🙂

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Things went really well last night. I was hoping to get a bit more sleep and have time to get up and take a get ready for the day. It almost happened. Carter got up (which is typical – he usually just comes to our room to watch tv for awhile), the oldest of the girls got up too at 6:30 so I had to make them both sit on the couch in our room and told them to be quiet so they didn’t wake the little ones while I took a shower. Well, you can imagine how that went so after a few warning we had to do a timeout, but in the end, I was able to do my shower, hair and makeup which is pretty good.

Today is going to be our big shopping trip. I need to get some clothes for the girls. They didn’t come with a whole lot so I have my list and we are gonna hit the stores this morning. Should be interesting. I did ask my mom to come along to help corral, but I’m not sure I’m going to wait that long (she is a volunteer tutor and has to do that today). In case, I don’t find what I’m looking for at Walmart, I’m gonna go to an outlet mall that’s about 45 minutes away and I will definitely need her then!!

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First Night

Things are going really well so far. The girls are just so great…especially the younger two. The oldest one is testing boundaries a bit, but that’s to be expected. I have them all unpacked and have my list of things we need to get tomorrow. They came into care with only the clothes on their backs. The receiving home was kind enough to give them some really cute clothes, but there’s just not enough of them so we are going to get them some more clothes. I also need some more baby water and more pacifiers for the baby.

They are just so darn cute!!!!

So not sure of what their blog names will be…gonna have to think on that one and get back to you! 🙂

Enjoy your night. I know I will be enjoying mine!

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